Limiting Beliefs

I guess that it’s time for me to be more proactive about some of the truths that I’ve been learning in my leadership journey.  One of these truths is the negative power that  limiting beliefs have on our results in just about every area of our lives.  When you understand this, it is encouraging because you now have the ability to improve your results if you will confront your limiting beliefs.  Orrin Woodward, who is a great mentor to me, often remarks that a good mentor’s job is to discover the limiting beliefs that are keeping someone from living up to their true potential.  After identifying them, the goal is to direct the person to information that will help them re-frame their thinking.  So, the question is, in which areas of your life would you like to improve your results enough to challenge your current thinking?

I was recently having a conversation with a person who was explaining to me why they continue to struggle with a bad attitude.  It seems there are so many challenges in their life that they feel justified in being negative.  I asked how they were enjoying this negative, “poor-me” existence, and they looked at me as if I had no compassion.  The truth is, they have chosen to view life from the perspective of a victim, and therefore gave up the ability to choose to overcome the issues and/or learn from the ones they couldn’t overcome.  I once heard a speaker, named David Ring, who said that if we are discouraged or down about our life, it is because we are thinking about ourselves.  This is a tough truth and sometimes hard to swallow, but it is also freeing because now we know the solution.  Becoming others-focused, developing a servant leadership mentality, and buying in to the bigger purpose as to why you are here, are all ways to improve your attitude.

How about financially?  How many people have a limiting belief on their ability to overcome their financial struggles.  “Being in debt is just the American way” was a remark that I heard the other day.  I strongly disagree; but if that person continues to speak that way and hang on to that belief, they will fulfill it.  The way to begin to overcome a poor financial situation is to search for information from financially successful people, and learn how to change your habits and beliefs about money.  Learning from the wisdom and mistakes of others is a positive way to develop some belief in yourself and your ability to improve your results–instead of accepting the current situation.

Probably the biggest and most important area in our lives has to do with our relationships.  Starting with our most important relationship, which is with our Creator.  Last Sunday, our pastor mentioned that happiness often depends on our circumstances, and comes and goes accordingly.  Joy depends on our faith and is consistent and present–regardless of our circumstances.  Have you noticed how people who have seemingly accomplished much sometimes live lives with no joy?  What is your belief about this key relationship?  Have you considered the fact that you may be limiting yourself by not searching for the answers?  There is also so much to learn in the other relationships that we all have.  How can we take the lid off our expectations and beliefs and go to another level?  Search for truth!  Be a hungry student!  Improve your people skills!  Learn personalities and love languages!  I suggest to tap into the great resources that the LIFE company offers and leave your limiting beliefs behind.  Begin the journey to becoming the best you that is possible, and live the life you’ve always wanted.

God Bless!




Vision stretchers

One of the things that I’ve learned on my journey through this life, is that success is a balance; and there are many areas that I have to intentionally focus on if I want to grow.  I have also learned the impact that relationships have on our thinking and our decision making.  We cannot drift into excellence, and therefore we need a plan to get better results.  The book, Resolved 13 Resolutions for Life, by Orrin Woodward, has stimulated my thinking in so many areas; and it is quickly becoming one of my favorite books.  It explores our lives from many different angles, and challenges us to resolve to live to a higher standard.

Recently, I’ve enjoyed playing basketball with a group of guys at the YMCA in my town.  Not only has it helped me with my physical goals, but it is a lot of fun.  The guys that come to play are very diverse in age, profession, background, etc.  From a very fit 59-year old retired government employee, to a judge…business owners, a variety of professionals, and a group of college kids, we play full court basketball for over an hour–three times a week.  As always when interacting with folks, it’s amazing to see the maturity (or lack of) that is exhibited when there is conflict.  To their credit, most of our games are competitive and fun, and very few incidents occur.  I found myself analyzing the different guys, and wondering what circumstances and relationships led them to their current place in life.  It is somewhat obvious to see that some have learned many success principles, have a good attitude, sport good people skills, and have confidence in themselves.  Then, there are those who lack in these areas and seem to feel that they have something to prove.  They get offended easily, and react negatively when things aren’t going their way.  Looking back, I used to be the guy who needed to prove something, because I didn’t see the big picture or realize my purpose for living. That was when God led people into my life that believed in me, and introduced me to information that changed my perspective.  Now, I am on a journey to continue to learn truths and discover what exciting adventures are ahead.  As Helen Keller said, “Life is either a great adventure, or nothing”.

What kind of circumstances and relationships have led you to where you are in life?  Is your life a great adventure?  As I look around and continue to meet people and build communities, I realize that just like the guys at the gym; the difference between people so often comes down to the relationships that they have, and if someone has taught them truths–or more importantly where to find the truth.  It is exciting to think that we have the opportunity to impact people by how we live our lives.  It is also important that we realize the ripple effect of our actions and attitudes on all those that we influence.  It’s a very negative world out there, and a smile, kind word of encouragement, or any positive affirmation does make a difference. As John Maxwell says, ” Those closest to you will stretch your vision, or choke your dreams”.  Let’s be vision stretchers.

God bless! Dean