Limiting Beliefs

I guess that it’s time for me to be more proactive about some of the truths that I’ve been learning in my leadership journey.  One of these truths is the negative power that  limiting beliefs have on our results in just about every area of our lives.  When you understand this, it is encouraging because you now have the ability to improve your results if you will confront your limiting beliefs.  Orrin Woodward, who is a great mentor to me, often remarks that a good mentor’s job is to discover the limiting beliefs that are keeping someone from living up to their true potential.  After identifying them, the goal is to direct the person to information that will help them re-frame their thinking.  So, the question is, in which areas of your life would you like to improve your results enough to challenge your current thinking?

I was recently having a conversation with a person who was explaining to me why they continue to struggle with a bad attitude.  It seems there are so many challenges in their life that they feel justified in being negative.  I asked how they were enjoying this negative, “poor-me” existence, and they looked at me as if I had no compassion.  The truth is, they have chosen to view life from the perspective of a victim, and therefore gave up the ability to choose to overcome the issues and/or learn from the ones they couldn’t overcome.  I once heard a speaker, named David Ring, who said that if we are discouraged or down about our life, it is because we are thinking about ourselves.  This is a tough truth and sometimes hard to swallow, but it is also freeing because now we know the solution.  Becoming others-focused, developing a servant leadership mentality, and buying in to the bigger purpose as to why you are here, are all ways to improve your attitude.

How about financially?  How many people have a limiting belief on their ability to overcome their financial struggles.  “Being in debt is just the American way” was a remark that I heard the other day.  I strongly disagree; but if that person continues to speak that way and hang on to that belief, they will fulfill it.  The way to begin to overcome a poor financial situation is to search for information from financially successful people, and learn how to change your habits and beliefs about money.  Learning from the wisdom and mistakes of others is a positive way to develop some belief in yourself and your ability to improve your results–instead of accepting the current situation.

Probably the biggest and most important area in our lives has to do with our relationships.  Starting with our most important relationship, which is with our Creator.  Last Sunday, our pastor mentioned that happiness often depends on our circumstances, and comes and goes accordingly.  Joy depends on our faith and is consistent and present–regardless of our circumstances.  Have you noticed how people who have seemingly accomplished much sometimes live lives with no joy?  What is your belief about this key relationship?  Have you considered the fact that you may be limiting yourself by not searching for the answers?  There is also so much to learn in the other relationships that we all have.  How can we take the lid off our expectations and beliefs and go to another level?  Search for truth!  Be a hungry student!  Improve your people skills!  Learn personalities and love languages!  I suggest to tap into the great resources that the LIFE company offers and leave your limiting beliefs behind.  Begin the journey to becoming the best you that is possible, and live the life you’ve always wanted.

God Bless!

Dean

 

Something Missing

This morning as I wondered into the kitchen to get some coffee brewing, I realized something was missing.  I have become accustomed to having three of my children–all teenagers at the moment–greet me in the morning with a nice long hug.  We all seem to wake up slowly so there isn’t normally much conversation, but the embrace communicates more than words ever could.  The morning before yesterday, all three of them headed north to volunteer their time for the summer at a Christian camp.  Originally starting as an idea to teach them the importance of serving others; not only is it the greatest investment, but it also yields a tremendous return in both relationships and a feeling of satisfaction that your life is making a difference. Well, they followed my advice, and now I am missing them and all the little things that they add to my life just by their presence.

Isn’t it funny how we pursue so many different things in life, but when you stop and really consider what is important; it always comes down to relationships.  My friend and mentor, Orrin Woodward, said that the greatest of all pains in life is relational pain.  How true–whether it is in your relationship with God or people, when you are truly happy or when you are really hurting–it almost always comes down to a relationship issue.  Therefore, it only makes sense to spend a consistent amount of time working on your relationship skills.  One of the reasons I love the LIFE Community that I am a part of, is the focus on continual personal growth in your relationships–as well as other areas.  Reading, listening to audios, and positive association is so helpful to keep refining your skills and learning to understand yourself and others.

I recently picked up a nugget from a pastor that put things into perspective.  He said that we should ask ourselves and those closest to us, “What is it like to be on the other side of me?”.  The first thing to realize is that you and I have never been there.  We only have our own perspective to go off of.  Therefore, if we really want to get insight into ourselves, we need to humble ourselves and ask others for their thoughts.  This is not recommended if you don’t want to hear some things that may hurt your feelings.  However, if you really want to get better, it will help you see yourself through someone else’s eyes.  It is also beneficial to have a mentor who can direct you to the best resources to help you improve in the areas that you are weak.  The thing to remember is that we are all on a journey through this life.  Perfection is not attainable, but excellence is.  The journey becomes much more exciting when you are working on improving yourself and strengthening the relationships around you.

As I realize that I will be missing some hugs and special times with some of my kids this summer, I also realize that I now have more time to enjoy my wife, my oldest son and his new bride, and the many new friends I will be making.  Thanks to the association with the Team and the LIFE Community–and because of the Mental Fitness Challenge–I am coming in contact with a high-caliber group of people who want to improve their own lives and make a positive difference in the world around them.  Who knows?  Maybe this summer, I will meet one of my future best friends.

 

God bless!

Dean